Planning on sharing your life–and your bed–with that special someone soon? You’ll want to carefully consider how you shop for the one of the most important pieces of furniture in your home.
According to Brett Swygman, vice president of sales education and development for Simmons, shopping for a bed as a couple is a lot like dating to find the perfect partner.
“It pays to be patient when searching for the mattress that best suits you. Take the time to shop the bedding department, and compare models,” Swygman says. And don’t be afraid to ask questions.
“Retail sales associates really are an invaluable resource to mattress shoppers,” says Swygman. “They can help point you in the right direction by explaining the differences between and benefits of each bed type.”
You’re likely going to spend more time on your bed and mattress than on any other piece of furniture in your house, so choose wisely. Search until you find one that you can both feel good about, that reflects a mutual decision.
“In any type of relationship, you have to be able to reach a compromise, which is not as simple as it sounds,” says Dr. Mark Goulston, a Santa Monica, Calif.-based psychiatrist and executive coach. “Listen to each other, be courteous and be unselfish. You’ll find that by truly listening to the other person and responding to his or her needs, your own needs will be met as well.”
Sizing up the right bed
If you decide to apply the give-and-take concepts of a successful relationship, you’ll find that shopping for something as personal as a bed isn’t as difficult as it sounds.
The first thing you’ll need to determine is size. No matter how in love you may be, every couple needs their space when it comes to sleep. To avoid the space battle, bedding experts recommend investing in either a queen- or king-sized bed to accommodate each person’s involuntary movements during sleep.
“How do you decide between a king and a queen?” says Swygman. “Queen-sized beds are for those who like a little space between themselves and their partner, while king-sized beds are for couples that really like to spread out or are used to having pets or children snuggle in between them.”
When purchasing your new mattress, don’t make the mistake of nixing the box spring. A box spring supports the mattress, and without it, you run the risk of reducing your new bed’s comfort and durability, not to mention possibly voiding the manufacturer’s warranty, according to Swygman.
“If money is an object, determine a budget and stick to it. If you can’t find a good option at your desired price point, don’t buy an uncomfortable mattress just to save a few bucks,” says Swygman. “Save up a bit longer for the mattress you really want. Short-term inconvenience beats long-term discomfort and regret.”
Even after you choose beds you both like, you’ll likely have to compromise on the final selection.
“Couples often have different opinions when it comes to mattress selection, so it is important to discuss what each of you finds comfortable,” “says Swygman.
Once you decide on a mattress, there are always options. If one person is set on a firm bed while the other is looking for something a bit softer, accessories like thick, plush mattress toppers can help differentiate one side of the bed from the other.
Testing out your new bed
A mattress is a big investment and not an easily returnable one. To test the beds, Swygman recommends wearing comfortable clothes and asking the retail associates for a comfortable pillow. Try out each bed together, and lie the way you normally sleep for at least 15 minutes. That way, you can feel the level of motion when one of you moves around.